It’s funny how when bad things happen to us, we think it’s so bad that we don’t take the time to consider that it could actually be good. We never really perceive what could have happened if the “bad” had not happened. I’m at the stage in my life where I’m beginning to see how the bad was good, especially those things that trigger the most pain such as my divorce. For months, despair, regret and pain would deluge my heart. Now that I’m healed, I have finally come into agreement with God. I’m able to see clearly now and I know without a doubt that it was good although it was bad. Everything about me is better now and I do mean everything– from my physical appearance to my perspective on life.

During this period I’ve learned so much, developed self-control and most of all my relationship with God is now unremitting. I have learned to put Him first in my life even before myself. Each morning that I awake, He’s the first one I speak to … my first conversation I have which is prayer. I believe that He is in love with me because I am madly in love with Him. To be completely honest with you, I don’t think none of the above would have been possible had my divorce not taken place. I feel like God literally moved the people from my life who was taking His place. God has taught me and is still teaching me in preparation for my second chance because my entire idea of marriage was wrong.

It’s sad to say but, sometimes it takes a person to reject us for us stop chasing after them and chase after God instead. Many of us have experienced this in life or will experience it. (I am the example here). With the wisdom I have, I would tell you that if a person decides to leave your life, let them go. Don’t try to reason with them … move forward! In the long run it’ll be good they left you. Sometimes people can stop you from getting what’s rightfully yours. I know that if anything is lost for the kingdom’s sake, God will replace it. Prior to your replacement, He’ll heal you, restore you and then settle you. God will do whatever it takes to improve you, making you better than who you were before.

God had to take from me to give to me. So after all, the bad wasn’t bad … it was actually quite good. My life then cannot compare to my life now. Many nights I cried myself to sleep but I will not take one tear back because my tears had purpose. I thought I was living then. Truthfully, NOW I know I’m living out my purpose. Today I have unimaginable joy and all glory to God! He framed my thoughts so when I think about the bad or anything bad that could happen … I’m not a bit concerned. I trust God and I know that I’m in better hands now.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28 (KJV)